16 reactions | you can directly say how you feel even if you feel anxious about "starting a problem." you deserve to feel loved in the way you need in bed and out! eventually as you get older and your sex drive goes down, you're less likely to try to get in the mood for responsive desire to happen if you have a lot of negative feelings about sex from feeling like it was the primary way to get love. I've seen this often when the woman gets older and is over pursuing! | Dr. Psych Mom | Facebook