“After 20 years of emotional abuse, I finally filed for divorce. What should I expect?” That question comes up all the time — and here’s the honest answer most people won’t tell you: The good news is you’re getting out of a marriage that was destroying you and your children. That matters more than anything. The hard truth is this: Divorcing an abusive or narcissistic spouse is rarely clean, fair, or quick. In fact, you should expect: • The process to take much longer than promised • It to cost f